Bisexuality: Real or fake?

Gay, lesbian, straight, whatever. You are who you are. The gay and lesbian community has been a little confusing yet interesting to me, because well, I’m straight. And within our sexuality, it’s ok to be curious or to think “what if,” but is being bisexual real or just a stereotype?

First of all, I’m not saying it doesn’t exist, because it does. But people have times in their lives where they feel drawn to the same sex as well as the opposite sex.

As humans, we weren’t meant to roam the earth alone. We need partners, companions in life, but we don’t need two of them.

The bisexual community is a large make up of love- those that are and always have been bisexual, the phasers, those that have flings and the polyamorous.

I can understand the curiosity of bisexuality, and this could also be a “phase” lasting for years, but most people eventually come out saying they’re gay or lesbian.

There’s nothing wrong with being attracted to both sexes but in time, I believe you find the person you were meant to be with.

Now that person may be a woman or a man, it’s your choice. But you do choose.

You are still bisexual, but you have chosen a person regardless of whether or not they are a male or female.

To me, it doesn’t make sense to want two partners. This is the bisexual stereotype.

Sure it may be exciting to some, but greed and jealously spin a wicked web called “free-love.”

Love triangles, especially bisexual ones, usually never work. When you start referring to love in shapes, you know you got a problem.

Even if you are bisexual, most date one person of the opposite sex at a time until they decide, so dating two people at once doesn’t always happen.

And there are those that are married, sneaking around to fulfill their desires. You shouldn’t have to hide who you are because there is nothing to be ashamed of.

Some people claim to be bisexual but are really going through a phase. It confuses me because they consider themselves to be bisexual but they aren’t. I think this is why people don’t believe this orientation is real.

I know people I went to high school with who claimed to be gay and then later confessed they were bisexual. Now they are in a heterosexual relationship.

Sure those are only a few instances, not everyone is the same in terms of sexuality. But still, they are with one person, just like we all should be.

I can’t imagine sharing myself with someone else. I just couldn’t do it. If the person I’m in love with loved me enough, they would respect my wants and needs and not be selfish.

I also can’t imagine having to divide my attention and make sure I love them equally.

No thanks.

Love isn’t meant to be complicated like we think it is, so why complicate things at all?

I’m sure that if you were 100 percent honest and open with your boyfriend and girlfriend, things might work, but I doubt it.

Sexuality is still a touchy subject, and I might not know all the ends and outs of bisexuality, and that’s fine because we’re all constantly learning, changing and growing. I just hope this stereotype isn’t all that real today.

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