Marriage while in college is big, stressful stepOpinion Sunday, March 3rd, 2013
College is a time to meet new people and learn new things. It is a time to go out to the club and pull all-nighters. And now… it seems to be the time for marriage. When the four-year degree plan is now more like five, should marriage be a priority?
Facebook is filled with engagement announcements and save the dates. Our generation is very much a multitasking one. If I can kill two birds with one stone I am pretty content to do so. However, do students that plan to wed during college have the time and money for their big day?
As a student that lives at home with her parents I could not imagine having the finances for a wedding. Being a full-time student with a part-time job, I am able to pay the few bills I have with a little money left to spend.
I understand the bride’s parents traditionally pay for the wedding. But not all young women have that luxury. So when their big day roles around they are footing the bill and it usually requires the job they get after nabbing their college degree to pay for it.
Having time to study, while working towards your degree, can sometimes be difficult. Many students work and have other obligations. Throwing a wedding into this laundry list of priorities is the last thing some want to do.
One would usually like to enjoy the wedding process. Cake tasting, dress fittings and even stuffing the little bags full of the Jordan almonds no one really cares for. Imagine doing all of these things during the school semester. Those weeks when the academic gods get in a laugh by aligning all of our tests one right after another— total chaos.
Students that choose to wait after college to marry may have extra time so many college students don’t have. A 40-hour-a-week job is also what comes after graduation. One could argue there is never a perfect time and place for marriage.
Classesandcareers.com shows statistics on marriage and divorce of college students. The average number of marriages per year is 42,500 and 2,750 divorces.
Getting married in college isn’t so counter culture to us anymore. It has become a norm in our society and people are accepting of it.
If you are determined to wed whilst in school it won’t be a piece of cake, have your priorities in order and your schedule on point.
For those who are not in that chapter of their lives or are waiting until graduation, getting married will most likely be an easier task.
The students I know that are married have done so successfully. They are also full time students with jobs and do well in school.
In the end one might say, “C’est la vie,” or to each his own. Having the resources, time and ability to take that next step in life is great. While waiting on the other hand is just as good.
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